Showing posts with label behavior. Show all posts
Showing posts with label behavior. Show all posts

Tuesday, October 8, 2013

Integrity



Integrity

That’s what bothers me.  Integrity.

Politics kills people’s integrity.

People I care about.  

People who I otherwise like and trust.

Democrats.  Republicans.  Friends that I like.  I care about them.  I don’t care about their politics.

I have friends on both sides.  Their politics are not a friendship test to me.

I could drop my wallet and know they’d give it back with no money missing.

I know I could leave my child with them and they’d keep her safe.

I  trust their integrity in many things.

But, open the politics door, and integrity flies out the window.

Why can’t my Democrat friends look at the Affordable Health Care Act and say, “It was wrong to use the tactics that were used, it was wrong to pile so much stuff in there, and it was wrong to pass something that wasn’t even read; my side was wrong.”?  No, they hoot and holler, cheering “My side won, screw you Republicans!”

Why can’t my Republican friends say, “There are people in dire need who cannot get insurance and suffer because of that.  We collectively must do something to help, and that may mean some sort of government involvement.”?  No, they stomp and fuss and compare the President to a dictator.

OR,
 
Why do the Republicans who wholeheartedly supported George Bush in all he did, including the war in Iraq, fuss about Barack Obama in Libya and Syria?

And the Democrats who hated all that George Bush was and were angry about Iraq, but have no complaint about Libya and Syria?

OR,

Why do Democrats excoriate the Republicans for balking on raising the debt ceiling and shutting down the government when President Obama voted precisely that way seven years ago during the Bush administration?

Why did the very Republicans who supported raising it in the past, suddenly care about the cost to our children’s future?

Why is it always the other group’s fault for not being willing to give something in compromise when your own side draws similar lines? 
 
Why does party loyalty remove all sense of honesty that your party doesn’t get it all right?

Perhaps this is why each side hates each other so?  A person who has compromised their own principals over politics, recognizes that same character in his opponent.

Where are the people of honor who can call out their own side?

Where are the ones with character enough to call out what’s right on the other side?

Where’s your integrity?

Signed,
A Modern Diogenes

Tuesday, September 6, 2011

It's Your Choice

Her finger waivered, floating back and forth over the dozen items on the touch screen.  She stood there for an eternity before realizing that she was holding up other people.  She gave an exasperated shrug and then settled on Coke.  Just plain old Coca-Cola.  Then she walked off shaking her head.

I sat watching as person after person encountered the new soda machine at a fast food restaurant.  This machine offers dozens of soda choices to begin with, along with tea, sports drinks, and flavored waters.  On top of all of that, there are a bunch of flavorings that you can add to each drink.  Each item you choose leads to a submenu of more choices.  Because of where I sat, I could see the people and their faces at they dealt with the multitude of options.  Throughout my lunch it was interesting to note that almost everyone who used the machine would just stand their completely befuddled for a few seconds up to a minute or two, ranging through the choices.

At first it was just amusing, but then, I began to take interest and spent my lunch watching this phenomenon.   I even adjusted my seat so I could observe their choices.  Time and time again, after a lengthy time of confusion, the participants in my unofficial experiment chose just plain Coke, just plain Pepsi, or just plain tea.  The line sometimes got quite long as each person had to face the cacophony of choices.

I would observe that the more choices we are given, the less choice we end up having.  For example: if Fastburger puts in a Coca-cola machine and all options are Coke products, then your average Pepsi drinker will have a Coke when they go there.  But, if Tacos-R-Us across the street offers both options, then your Pepsi drinker will generally choose Pepsi products.  If the Pepsi is runs out, then he might just try Coke, Mountain Dew, or even have some water.  Now, Chicken Delight opens up with their multi-choice machine and in most cases, Pepsi man is just going to revert to Pepsi.  He is unlikely to try something new and is likely to bypass all the extra choices for that which is comfortable.

I watched this happen recently in my own family.  We were looking to paint a few accent walls in the new place, so the wife and kids and I all piled in the car and went to the local Home Depot paint section and grabbed all of the decorating samples and pamphlets in the paint section.  I told my wife to pick the accent colors and I’d paint.  A week went by, then two.  I saw her looking through the stack of samples time and again.  I finally asked her what colors she wanted and she told me she just couldn’t decide.  So, I took the samples and narrowed the choice down to three sets that I liked and gave them to her.  She then quickly made her mind up in a matter of minutes.  Too many choices were overwhelming, but narrowed down to a few, she could quickly judge between them.

“Who cares about soda choices or the paint on the wall?” you may ask.  It certainly doesn’t matter in the bigger scheme of things, but human behavior can be observed in these little microcosms of life.

Consider the amount of advertising, media, and marketing we face on a daily basis.  There is no way we can take it all in, so we begin to tune much of it out.  We have thousands of choices that we face each day.  Offer a person a few choices and they will tend towards their comfort zone but may occasionally step out and try something new.  However, offer this same person hundreds of choices and they will always revert to the simplest and most comfortable option.

There is almost a paralysis in overwhelming choice that leads to an irony. 

More choices = less options = less trying of new things

Fewer choices = greater options = more experimentation

This whole idea plays out in the political arena too and is, in fact, becoming a dangerous threat to our political system.  In order to gain control of the issue of choices, systems like Facebook and Google cater to our existing comfort.  The results that show on a given Google search or the advertisements that Facebook shows you are based on previous choices, comments, notes, and searches that you have done.  This begins to limit your access to important information from other points of view.  This is rapidly distilling our points-of-view and making us more and more partisan.  The threat of propaganda and lies become that much more real because we no longer receive the broader range of information, and often, our minds become more and more closed to what little we see from the other side.

I watch this happen, almost on a daily basis, on Facebook.  I have friends who are Republican and friends who are Democrat.  Their posts are always very partisan and they see major events through a polarized lens.  When something happens in the world, I can usually predict what each of them will post.  This used to be an amusing game: ‘Guess what So-and-So will post about the president’s speech?’  It is no longer funny, because it occurs to me that we are polarizing ourselves into two nations within a nation.

I’m not sure what the answer is here, but it will be interesting to watch this play out over a generation.  My children will be exposed to more information and choices than I ever have known in my lifetime.  They will be bombarded with data.  They are already aggressively marketed to, by an industry that no longer waits until they are teens to target them. 

Will they develop ways to use this information and grow from it, or will they become overwhelmed by the deluge and retreat to the comfort of a single point of view that pits one group of people against another? 

We are richer when we reach out to others who believe differently from us.  We are stronger when we test new ideas and logically accept or reject them based on fact and not emotion.  We are better people when we associate with those who look different.  We grow by rubbing off on each other and being challenged on what we think we know. 

Will our choices control us or will we control our choices?

Monday, August 2, 2010

Time to Grow Up and Act Like Kids Again


“It’s MINE!!!,” screamed the Stephen as he took the big red ball away from the Anne. Anne promptly burst into tears and went running to the teacher where she sobbed and stuttered trying to tell her version of the story. Stephen came running up a few steps behind yelling, “I had it first and she took it from me." Both children are full of righteous anger and primed to fight for their rights with no regard or thought for the other.
The teacher was now left to sort out the issue and deal with the children, not just with their refusal to share, but also with their behaviors after the fact.
You might think this is a story of two preschoolers, but perhaps not…
Recently, in Phoenix, a black city councilman was in a confrontation with a white police officer. The actual outcome of the situation is murky with blame to be assigned to both sides, but the interesting thing is the gigantic outpouring of anger from the black community in that area. Even if this single episode was not actually racially motivated, someone had better pay attention to the issue of community policing in that area because the response tells me there are much deeper issues there.
In the past months, we have seen a Health Care Bill signed into law by Democrats who completely bypassed any semblance to open and honest legislation, provoking some of the largest angry reactions that I have seen in politics during my lifetime. This gave a boost to the Tea Party movement that has been agitating for change in government.
Sometime later, Arizona Republicans signed a law into effect that some said could lead to racial profiling, leading to an enormous backlash by Hispanics and others.
Each of these events have something in common: the response was much more powerful than expected and in some cases, has yet to die down.
The response in each of these cases is due to the feeling of disenfranchisement by one group in response to the actions of another.
As a White man, it is easy to dismiss the situation that occurred with the City Councilman because he is black and ultimately had a large degree of fault in the events that transpired. But the event was merely a catalyst that opened the lid of simmering issues between the Black community and the Law Enforcement community.
Democrats are quick to dismiss the Tea Party movement as a bunch of crazies and racists, but the truth is, they are by and large ordinary people that are sick of the abuses of government and want to be heard.
Arizona Republicans and supporters of SB1070 and similar laws like to shut down the immigration argument with sound bites about ‘rule of law’ but fail to recognize the very real fears of many legal Hispanic immigrants and citizens as well as the complex issues of our historic immigration policies.
Whatever race we are, whatever political or religious affiliation, we must remember that there are people who hold different ideas than we do. Our actions as a majority may seem right to us, but may trample the rights of others or appear to do so.
If large numbers of people stand up in response, there just might be a problem that the majority doesn’t recognize or refuses to see. Dismissing our opponents and denigrating their values is not healthy or productive.
Democrat or Republican, White or Black, Legal or Illegal, Christian or Atheist, Tastes-great or Less-Filling, we all share this nation and we must work together and listen to each other.
In Kindergarten we learn to share, to respect each other, and to play nice.
It is the time to dial down the rhetoric and work to open avenues of communication.
It is the time for openness and truth.
It is the time for cooperation and compromise.
Let’s remember those lessons from Kindergarten…
It’s time to grow up and act like kids again.
Don't make me go tell the teacher.

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