Degree of Debt

College expenses are rising faster than students can pay for them.  There is no way to graduate college without a mountain of debt.  A quality education is out of the reach of most people.  These statements and others like them just aren’t true.  It’s this either/or type of thinking that gets us in so much trouble as a nation: “You EITHER get in massive debt OR you don’t get to get a quality college education.” 

The truth is, though the average college student graduates with $22,900 in Student Loan Debt¹, it doesn’t have to work this way.  In the past 40 to 50 years, college has become this fantasy experience in our nation.  We have allowed it to become this all-expenses-paid right-of-passage full of alcohol, dating, parties, and entertainment (with a few classes thrown in).  That may be fun, but it is expensive.  We’ve sold a false bill-of-goods to our children and now, those who are graduating deeply in debt are struggling to pay for an education in an economy when fewer jobs are available.  They are angry, and rightly so, but their anger is somewhat misplaced if it is used only to blame Corporate America for a bad economy.  Perhaps some anger is due to themselves and poor choices that they have made and unrealistic expectations that they have built their young fantasies on.  Perhaps some anger is due their parents, teachers, and guidance counselors who sold them on the myth of the college experience. 

Let’s look at this myth a piece at a time.

#1 – Let’s be honest here.  Not everyone has to go to college.  Not only that, many people should NOT go to college.  Their study skills, life goals, and sheer desire may not be there.  Maybe they are going because they feel they have to in order to find a good job, or because their parents want them to go.  For some, a start in the work force is what is needed.  Others may consider trade schools or union trade apprenticeship.  Let’s not forget stay-at-home parents.  Financial concerns should never prevent someone from getting to college, but desire may (and should).  All too often, we tell kids they must go to college if they want to be somebody.  Many of the most accomplished entrepreneurs never went to college or dropped out without a college degree.  Steve Jobs and Steve Wozniak dropped out of college.  Billy Joe McCombs of Clear Channel Mediadropped out of law school.  David Geffen of Dreamworks fame dropped out.   Walt Disney dropped out of high school.  So did Vidal Sassoon.  So did Richard Branson of Virgin Records and Ray Kroc of McDonalds.  Mary Kay Ash of Mary Kay cosmetics never went to college.  Hyman Golden of Snapple fame, no college.  Frank Lloyd Wright never even went to High School.  There are hundreds of others on this list², so let’s be honest that college isn’t required for everyone. 

#2 – working your way through college is not a bad thing.  Forget the whole ‘College Experience.’   You don’t need to spend tens of thousands of dollars to party for four years.  It is completely possible and realistic to work 30-40 hours a week and still attend 8-12 hours of classes.  Late nights? Yes.  Hard work?  Yep.  Severely curtailed dating life? Absolutely.  No one said it has to be easy.  What’s more, the value of working during your degree cannot be underestimated.  Part time jobs in food service, retail, and even janitorial are great character builders and offer an education in and of themselves.  You learn how to deal with people.  You learn how to serve others.  You learn the value of a dollar earned.  You learn a trade that will always be a valuable back up when times are hard.  I earned my way through college the first time working in fast food.  I know that I will always be able to support my family in the roughest of times.  I am not afraid of cleaning toilets and I am not ashamed of flipping burgers or washing dishes.  A waiter or waitress can make great money if they are hard workers and good at entertaining people too.  What’s more, the flexible schedule of restaurant work allows you to go to school during the day and work at nights and on weekends.

#3 – in almost every situation, going to an Out-of-state college is not worth the investment.  In-state tuition is cheaper and the ability to stay with relatives* makes it much more affordable, compared to paying exorbitant out-of-state tuition and dorm fees.  Yes, I know that every kid is itching to move away from home.  Yes, I know that Florida State University is right near the beach.  Yes, I know that every guidance counselor in high school wants you to apply at every college in the U.S.   But, the truth be known, you can get an excellent education at your State University. 

* it was pointed out to me that some states have larger rural populations that make staying with relatives an untenable proposition.  The savings on in-state tuition as well as using some of these other tips (especially number 4 below) still makes much more sense than going out of state.

#4 – You don’t have to go all four years to the same school.  Save money by taking your basics at a community college or online.  At the current schedule of fees and costs, I can take English 101 at a Maricopa county community college for $76 a credit hour.  Contrast that with taking the same class at ASU for $658 a credit hour².  That is TEN TIMES the cost for the same class that will transfer!!!  I recommend community college for most kids as a starter for several reasons.  Financially, it is significantly more affordable.  It gives the young adult a chance to experience a wide range of classes before locking into a degree program.  And, it gives them a chance to see if college is even right for them.  The only ones that I recommend go right into a full university are those kids who have earned a full ride scholarship.  If they’ve already worked that hard, they are ready for college, and they don’t have to worry that their classes are more expensive.  I do recommend that any students starting at community college talk with an adviser from their prospective degree university to make sure that classes they choose at the community college will transfer.  The great thing about a community college is it gives you a chance to experiment.  Take 2-3 classes of basic requirements and 1 class that looks interesting as an elective.  Most students change their degree program at least once.  Attending community college first allows you to try different things before locking in, and allows you to do it at a much more affordable rate.

#5 – Scholarships are available for more than just perfect grades or football.  There are thousands of scholarships and grants available for students.  You just have to find them.  The college financial aid counselor will point you towards some of them, but others require research.  The first time I went to college in my late teens, this meant hours in the library looking through Scholarship and Grant books and then writing essay after essay.  This time, it’s all on the internet and you can often apply online.  Often, you must still include an essay, but you can copy and paste right from your MS Word document to the online form.  Much easier. 

#6 – Extra-curricular activities are just that: extra.  Unless you have a scholarship that demands your participation in a specific sport or other program, then these things are tertiary to your primary goal of getting a good education and secondary goal of paying for the degree without drowning in debt.  If you have time then you can join a sport, a club, or a fraternity or sorority.  These things may be fun, but they just aren’t what you are there for.  Not only do these things distract you from your education and waste time that is better spent elsewhere, they cost more money.  Brutal realism is required for good financial health.

#7 – Get a degree that matters.  Very few students that I have dealt with over the years in Youth Ministry have had any clue what they really want to do for a living.  Often they have these fantasy jobs and sound certain of their goals with all the assurance of youth.  Anyone who has dealt with High School and College age kids knows the truth.  What they think they want to do coming out of High School is rarely what they end up doing for a career.  General degrees in business and education prepare you for almost any career.  Get an Associates and/or Bachelors in these fields and then specialize with a Masters degree.  If you spend four years on an Art History degree, don’t be surprised if there are few jobs open when you get out of college. 

#8 – You have to earn your stripes.  The most important lesson that we, adults, can teach kids is that you must expect to work your way up from the bottom.  You have to pay your dues. When you get out of college, you just might not be able to find a job right away.  Yes, I know, the college recruiter said that you would be making $100,000 a year within six weeks of graduation and that the college will help you find that job.  Guess what… The college recruiter’s job is to get you to come to their college (and bring money with you).  They are not always so honest about what happens after college.  What’s more, they cannot control the economy.  You will probably have to start at the bottom of your degree field and earn you way up.  You may have to do jobs you don’t like to earn your way to the job you want.  You may even have to struggle in a different field for awhile till you can even get into the company you want.  Prepare for that.  Acknowledge it now and save yourself the stress.  This is another good reason NOT to get into huge college debt.  Being debt-free or mostly so upon graduation gives you time to find your niche.  This is a good reason to work your way through college.  If you can get in on the bottom floor in a field similar to or the same as you will be working in, you may find that internship or first time job that puts you ahead of the rest of the field when you get out of school.

#9 – You don’t need credit cards to get through college.  The sad truth is that most college students  graduate with student loan debt AND credit card debt.  The average college senior graduates with an additional $4,100 in credit card debt⁴.  That is in addition to the $20,000 plus in student loans.  Credit card companies love to come to student events and give away free Frisbees and pizza for everyone who applies for a credit card.  Students, whose parents have often spent a lifetime in debt, now sell themselves into debt slavery for a slice of pizza and a toy that they won’t even have by the time they pay the bills.

#10 – College doesn’t have to take four years.  In fact, a six year degree while you work is much more realistic and will provide you with an opportunity to gain experiences that you might not have otherwise gotten.  By working your way through a realistic class schedule, you will be able to have the flexibility to take internships, study abroad for a year, serve for a summer in a charity, or any number of other life experiences that will help you be a better, well rounded person and also impress future employers. 

The college experience myth is busted.  You can have that fantasy of fraternity parties, football games, and dating the cheerleader while going to classes, but it is going to cost you.  If you choose this fairy tale, don’t be surprised when you graduate with debt up to your ears and little prospect for financial freedom in the near future.  But, if you accept reality for what it is and are willing to put a little blood, sweat, and tears (no, not the 70s band) into your education, you can come out with something of real value at a fraction of the cost, and with the ability to earn your way to the top.  For the rest of us, the teachers, youth ministers, coaches, parents, and every other person who influences young adults: it is our duty to help these kids be realistic.  Let’s not feed them any more lies about college and debt, but give them a kick start in life by teaching them the value of hard work and an earned education.  Let us pass on the idea that the world doesn’t owe them a living and they shouldn’t expect someone else to pick up the tab for their choices. 

I am not totally hard-line against any debt.  If you have to use a little to get through your last year unpaid internship, then do what you have to do.  It is much harder to get a master’s degree debt free, but do as much as you can.  It’s just the thought of teaching our kids that debt is unavoidable, so let’s just use loans for all four years and hope that we can get a job right away to pay it all.

Finally, let us help our kids in the ways we can.  If you can financially help a kid get through college, do it.  If you can pay for a book, buy them dinner, or give them your old computer or bicycle, do it.  If you can encourage them, help them research scholarships, give them a quiet place to study, do it.  If you can help them get a part-time job where you work, or write a recommendation for their internship, do it.  If you can help with their laundry, give them a ride, or assist them with homework, do it.  Whatever happens, let’s help where we can and let’s not harm them by perpetuating myths.

As long as we believe that it isn’t possible and keep telling ourselves and our kids that, then we will continue to stick them with large amounts of debt.  But, when we quit making excuses and quit perpetuating myths, then we can change our kid’s future.

1.       http://news.consumerreports.org/money/2011/05/2011-college-grads-have-highest-average-debt-to-date.html

2.       http://www.youngentrepreneur.com/blog/100-top-entrepreneurs-who-succeeded-without-a-college-degree/

3.       http://collegesearch.collegeboard.com/search/CollegeDetail.jsp?collegeId=2353&profileId=2

4.       http://www.credit.com/press/statistics/student-credit-and-debt-statistics.html

P.S. -  It’s funny, but I’ve been accused of being unrealistic and fantasizing for thinking that things can work this way.  In most cases, it is from people who don’t want to think they have made wrong choices, so they say things like, “debt is unavoidable,” or, “it’s just not possible to live debt-free.”  Yet, I know others who have taken personal responsibility and recognized that past choices do not dictate the future.  These people are paying off debt steadily and living less stressful lives.  This includes myself and my family.  I got into deep debt during my first college experience and young adult years.  After years of hard lessons and even harder work, we are almost debt free.  That is reality, not fantasy.  Invariably, the people making the excuses and saying that debt free living is a fantasy are the ones continually making the same choices that continually get them further into debt and continually cause them suffering or don’t want to be honest about their own responsibility for past choices.   Those who are brutally honest with themselves get out of trouble, those that blame others continue living in trouble.  That is my experience.  YMMV

#Occupy Yourselves

Financial Tip # 10 - It Ain't My Fault

The recent crash in our financial markets that destroyed our economy for the last two years has been blamed primarily on banks (although, for some reason, our beloved leaders in Washington are focusing on fixing Wall Street.) I worked for 13 years in banking and can honestly tell you that the banks ARE largely to blame for some of the practices that lead to this fiasco. They sold complicated loan products to people to buy houses they couldn’t afford. They encouraged people to refinance and take money out for debt consolidation and for home improvements. They even gave loans that were purposely worth more than the house was appraising for at the time. And that makes it all the bank’s fault right? Let’s punish those greedy, evil, fat cats sitting in their plush offices, because they are responsible for predatory lending. Right?

Yes. At least partly so.

But let’s not forget that other people had a part in this too. The government required banks to give loans in areas that were high risk and to people who were high risk through the Fair Housing Act of 1968, the Home Mortgage Disclosure Act of 1975 and most importantly through the Community Reinvestment Act of 1977. They then established companies like Sallie Mae and Freddie Mac who guarantee credit for student loans and home loans to those who cannot afford (or cannot qualify for) them under normal lending guidelines. These laws, while well intentioned, helped create a house of cards that was destined to fall. So let’s blame the government. Right?*

It’s funny how we like to take complex situations and narrow the blame down to one single person or group of people. That way, we feel better about ourselves forget that the problem ever happened.

Except, there is one more group of people that we mustn’t forget. Not Wall Street Investors. Not Bankers. Not the government. Who could we possibly blame then?

It’s you and I. It is us and all of our friends and neighbors. To quote the old Sunday cartoon, Pogo, “We have met the enemy and he is us.” We are all at fault.

• Every person who took out a mortgage on a house that was well outside of their budgetary range and didn’t realize how deep they were is responsible.
• Everyone who signed on the dotted line for an adjustable rate mortgage that they didn’t understand is at fault.
• Each person who accepted cashout on a mortgage to buy things such as cars, boats, toys, or other items because the broker told them that they could do it shares the blame.
• All those who had B and C credit who went to mortgage brokers and bought a home or got a second mortgage with a future balloon payment or a 125% equity product because they believed the loan officer about their ability to repay it shares the liability for the failure.
• Anyone who financed their car for five or six years so they could buy a more expensive car with lower payments because the finance guy showed them how it would work, shoulders part of this burden.

We have to be honest that it is our own greed and lack of education that got us here.

This is our last and final financial lesson in this series. You HAVE to educate yourself.

Yes, financial issues are complicated. These concepts are hard to understand. If you can’t define amortization, APR, equity, cost basis, accrual, escrow, LTV, per diem interest, PITI, no-load index fund, capital gain, prime rate, ZBA, REIT, or RESPA; then you need to get educated before you go into a bank or before you begin investing.

Yes, this stuff is hard. I'm sure there are some strange accounting types for whom this stuff is enjoyable. They're probably good a poker too. I'm not one of those people. I worked for years in banking and only learned a small portion of the financial information that I need to know. I did tax analysis on some of the most complicated taxes for companies and individuals seeking financing. I worked with first and second mortgages, with a mortgage broker, and in dealer financing. I understand lending quite well, but when it comes time to invest money, I have to study the products. When it came time to do my taxes as a pastor (the IRS has some really weird regulations regarding pastors), I had to learn about it.

Don’t let your rush to purchase something blind you to the need to understand it. Don’t fall victim to your finances because reading all that paperwork is mind-numbing and difficult. Greed and laziness will be your downfall when it comes to your money.

If you want to be poor and in debt all your life, keep buying things with credit, keep trusting what bankers and brokers tell you, and never get educated on money and finances. There is no one responsible for your financial issues but you.

Don’t stand there and blame everyone else. Take responsibility for your finances and do something about it.

Want to get educated? Here are some of my recommendations:

Dave Ramsey – www.daveramsey.com – writer and radio host, Dave teaches you about how to become debt free and how to gain control of your money. I believe that he would agree with much of what I have written in these last ten segments. My wife and I recently found his program and, though we were already working towards living debt free, we changed to his model because there are parts that make a lot of sense. I recommend following his baby steps, found in his book Total Money Makeover.

Crown Financial Ministries – www.crown.org – a Christian ministry that provides financial education for people. I have not personally used their program but know several churches that do.

Feed the Pig – www.feedthepig.org – lots of great tools and information on saving money and getting control of your finances.

FDIC Money Smart - http://www.fdic.gov/consumers/consumer/moneysmart/index.html A government program for educating people about finances. They have some good resources, but I have to wonder if anyone in congress has had any financial education.

My Money – www.mymoney.gov – Another government website teaching financial literacy. Wow, with all these tools, you’d think we could pass a balanced budget.

The Dummies Series - http://www.dummies.com/how-to/personal-finance.html - I love the ‘for Dummies’ series of books. They are written by subject matter experts, but are written in laymen’s terms. They have a whole series on personal finance and budgeting. They are definitely worth your time.

Disclaimer: I am not a trained financial advisor, I just play one on this blog. Seriously. Get good financial advice in life. My information comes primarily from personal experience, working in consumer lending in the banking industry, and watching friends, family, and parishioners struggle. But, much of this is common sense; most people just don't use their common sense when it comes to financial matters.

* Note: If you are a Republican, feel free to blame President Obama or Clinton. If you are a Democrat, feel free to blame President Bush or Reagan. It’s never your party’s fault.**

** If you fail to note the extreme sarcasm here, please insert your voter registration card in your nearest paper shredder. Then, take the pieces and burn them with a lighter. Take the leftover ashes and flush them down the toilet and never, ever vote again.

Financial Tip # 9 - Planting Trees

We just had two new trees planted at the church today; they were a donation in memory of Mark Tibben, a former member who passed away recently. These skinny little trees are just under two inches in diameter and about nine feet tall with a little foliage on them, but not much. I’m told that in a few years they will grow quite large, ultimately with a spread of about 35-45 feet on their branches. Within ten to fifteen years these trees will grow over 20 feet and can get up to 40-60 in height with care.

Planting a tree is a hope-filled act. They provide no shade today and little in the next few years. But, there is hope. In later years these trees will bring joy to many other people. Children will climb in the branches. Teens will cuddle in the shade. Picnic blankets will be thrown under the branches. Parents will point out bird’s nests to their preschoolers. Deep discussions will be had and perhaps a few naps.

When we are looking at our money, we need to remember an incredibly key point: you have to give some away. The Bible is replete with God’s desire that we provide for the poor, shelter the homeless, clothe the naked, adopt the orphan, and support the widows in need. This is how you plant trees with your finances.

There are few greater joys in life than giving away some of what God has provided for you. Many people use a 10 percent rule, but don’t let that limit you. When you give money away to a good cause, it changes you. You grow too. You experience joy too. It’s not just about the person receiving the gift.

Let me encourage you to recognize the power of wealth freely given. It doesn’t take much, but it will grow if you let it. I once worked with a guy who was always on to the next get-rich-quick scheme. He once told me, “Rodger, I want to be rich so that one day, I can make a big donation to a church, or have a homeless shelter built in my name. I want to do good with my money when I get there.”

I then asked him the hard question, “How much did you give to others last week?”

“Why nothing,” he said, “I’m not rich yet.”

“If you aren’t giving when you have a little, then you won’t give when you have more,” was my reply.

I have observed in life, that it is often the poorest people who are the most generous. I hope I made him think. I don’t know if he ever made giving a habit, but I hope so.

Generosity is a lifestyle and it is one that can touch people’s lives. Every year, I take a group of high schoolers to a summer conference that occurs on college campuses in California or Colorado. There is always a point during the week where we have an evening off and go off to do some fun activity such as white water rafting, horseback riding, or go to the beach. Taking a dozen teens into town can be challenging. A few years ago, we took the group to a Mexican restaurant for dinner on our free night and the kids were a little rowdy and silly. So, when we collected money from everyone for dinner and a tip, I asked each kid to give above their normal tip amount so that we could bless the poor waitress that put up with us. The adult volunteers and I did the same. When all was said and done, we paid $150 for the meal and left $150 for tip!!! We quickly left, because I didn’t want to be there when she found the tip. We went into town and walked around for a few hours waiting for time for our next event. At one point, I realized that I needed to use the restroom and all of the businesses had signs that said “no public restrooms.” I decided to go back to the restaurant, since I had been a customer there and it was only a few blocks away. When I walked in, our waitress saw me and glumly said, “I figured you’d be back. You paid too much.” I smiled really big at here and said, “No, I know how much we left you, that was all a tip for you. God bless you.” She got tears in her eyes and quietly said, “Thank you,” then started crying and turned towards the back. I will never know what all was going on in her life, but I know we touched her life that day.

Let me recommend that you plant some trees (figuratively). Invest in someone else by providing for their needs. Donate money to a local church ministry. Give to a homeless shelter. Write a check to an afterschool program for poor families. Leave a big tip for a waiter or waitress. Be generous.

Let me ask this also, spend your money on people. I know that there are hundreds of charities out there that help animals and the rainforest and other such causes. Don’t be afraid to give to them too, but let me ask that your primary giving be towards helping people. Life is short and can be very brutal for some people, so let’s work together to touch their lives. There is a lot of hurt out there and never enough people willing to help.

Planting trees is an act of hope. So is generosity. It gives you hope in humanity and it gives other people hope in humanity. It changes everyone it touches and, just like trees, acts of generosity will continue to spread joy for years to come.

When you get your next paycheck this month, take something from it and give it away.

Plant a tree of generosity.

If you need some suggestions of places to donate, here are a few local, national, and international organizations that I can recommend:

Phoenix Rescue Mission – www.phoenixrescuemission.org – Helps provide shelter, food, and skills training to assist homeless men, women, and families.

Streetlight Ministries - www.streetlightphx.org – Helps rescue underage girls forced into prostitution at an average age of 13 years old. Provides drug rehab, job training, GED classes, and counseling as well as shelter and a home until they can take care of themselves.

HOW Home – www.thisishowhome.org – provides a home and helping hand to transgendered people living on the streets. Helps them get back their life.

Rapha House – www.raphahouse.org – an international group committed to stop sex slavery in Southeast Asia. Provides housing and job training for teen and preteen girls (as young as six) to get out of forced prostitution.

The Dream Center – www.dreamcenter.org – Provides help for the poorest and most marginalized people in Los Angeles, New York, and Phoenix.

World Vision – www.wvi.org – Provides immediate international emergency relief in disaster and war torn areas of the world and long term help to villages and communities through child sponsorship, education, clean water wells, etc.

Mountain View Christian Church Benevolence Fund – www.mvccaz.com – Our church (and most other churches) maintains a Benevolence fund which provides immediate financial assistance with food, rent, and utility bills to those in need. This money goes directly to those in the immediate community who are in need and does NOT pay salaries, building repairs, or any other day-to-day costs. You can contact us at 602-955-9414 if you want to make a donation to this fund OR, call up almost any church or synagogue to do the same.

Disclaimer: I am not a trained financial advisor, I just play one on this blog. Seriously. Get good financial advice in life. My information comes primarily from personal experience, working in consumer lending in the banking industry, and watching friends, family, and parishioners struggle. But, much of this is common sense; most people just don't use their common sense when it comes to financial matters.

Financial Tip # 8 - What is Between Before and After?

You see it all over the internet. It’s in magazines, newspapers, and on television: The Two Picture advertisement. The picture on the right-side shows a very attractive woman. She’s thin, toned, and usually wearing a bikini. Her hair is done up and her makeup is perfect. That’s the “After” shot. The left side, the picture you should have looked at first shows a different woman. She’s not so pretty. She’s fat, wearing frumpy clothes, an out of date hairstyle, and only draws your eye in mockery of the other picture. That’s the “Before” shot. Sometimes these ads use men, in which case you see a dumpy guy with love handles magically transformed into a muscular, ripped hunk who somehow has more hair and got tanned. The suggestion of these advertisements is usually that, if you use the instant diet/fast-working cream/15-minute program/etc. that they are selling, you too will go from bumpy to beautiful in no time at all.

Let’s be honest here. Life just doesn’t work that way. There are NO magic potions. No matter what you choose to lose weight, there is pain and work involved if you really want to lose the weight. I have a friend, Danny, who used to weigh close to 500 pounds. It took him about three years of working out and eating healthy to reach a healthy and muscular 250 pounds. He now helps other people do the same. He’ll tell you that there aren’t any magic potions or pill, just will-power, accountability, discipline, effort, and time. Personally, I have struggled with weight and have taken almost four years to lose 70 pounds. That’s four years of struggle, falling down and getting back up, eating right, working out, etc.

This brings us to our financial tip of today: There is space between the before and after. If you want to have a relatively secure financial situation, it takes work. If you want to be wealthy, you have to have discipline. If you want to be in control of your money it takes effort. If you want to be debt free and no longer a slave to your creditors, it takes time. There are plenty of books, cd's, and programs that promise you get-rich-quick ideas, but these just don't generally work. It takes real work to get there.

Hard work is not a four-letter word (yes, I know it is two four letter words). Discipline didn’t use to be a bad word. Our culture has become saturated by get rich quick schemes. Microwave food, fast food restaurants, instant financing, quick money making opportunities… Now, now, now. The problem is, this type of attitude just doesn’t work for most people. Sure, some people do hit that big idea that turns them into an instant millionaire. But, most of your millionaires didn’t get there that way.

I’m not a millionaire. I’m just a guy who sees the pain and suffering that friends and family suffer in the throws of debt and I know there is a better way. It just takes hard work.

Don’t be afraid to sit down and look at your real financial situation. It’s like taking out a camera and taking your before shot. Your finances may be bumpy, ugly, and not something you want to look at; but, with brutal honest, hard work, accountability, and discipline, you can have sexy finances too. Not through magic potions, but through work.

Hard work and discipline worked for our grandparents, getting them through the Great Depression. It works for immigrants and refugees who come here with nothing. Let it work for you too.

Just remember, it takes time to get from Before to After.

Proverbs 13:11 - Wealth gained hastily will dwindle, but whoever gathers little by little will increase it.

By the way, if you want Danny to help you get from Before to After in your weight loss goals, he can be found at www.dviiifitness.com. I promise you, he will help you, but you will have to work hard for it.

Disclaimer: I am not a trained financial advisor, I just play one on this blog. Seriously. Get good financial advice in life. My information comes primarily from personal experience, working in consumer lending in the banking industry, and watching friends, family, and parishioners struggle. But, much of this is common sense; most people just don't use their common sense when it comes to financial matters.

Financial Tip # 7 – The Old Man and the Mountain

As I sit writing this, I can look out my office window and see Squaw Peak Mountain. Every day, dozens, if not hundreds of people climb this mountain. I’m not sure why, because it is all desert and just plain hard work, but people do it anyway. I have climbed Squaw Peak several times with friends who got a wild hair and decided this was a wise idea. The last time I climbed Squaw Peak, I was huffin' and a puffin' about halfway up and I heard this huffing sound behind me. I looked back and there was this old man who looked to be about 100 years old running up the mountain. He was all skin, sinew and bone and must have weighed less than his age. But, he was moving and fast. He wore a determined look on his face and never looked side to side at the people he passed; he focussed only on the trail ahead. He ran past me and soon disappeared up the trail. I continued plodding along and by the time I had hit the ¾ mark (where it starts to get really hard), the same old man came running back down the mountain at full speed. He had already been to the top and back!!! That was very discouraging and I considered turning around and going home then and there. I didn’t want him to pass me again going back up a second time!

This brings us to our next financial tip. You have to focus on your own goals. No two people are alike. No two families are alike. There are some basic financial principles that apply to most people, but the way you employ them in your own life may differ from your neighbor.

It’s really easy to look at the guy next to you and wish you had it as good as him. This budget and finance stuff would be easy if we had a paid off house like he does. That family over there makes much more money than we do, we’d be farther along in our plan if we made that much. Look at her, her family bought her everything in life and now she just received a huge inheritance to boot; we can’t ever catch a break.

I didn’t know the story of the old man on the mountain. Why was he running? What did he have to prove? What had happened to him in life that got him there? The same is true of finances. I don’t know what other people really have going for them or what they’re dealing with. All I can focus on is myself and my family when it comes to financial planning. Our situation is the one that matters to our budget. I must keep the faith. With disciplined spending, wise budgeting, and focus on our goal, our family will get where we need to be.

On that trail that day, there were dozens of people going at different speeds. Some took side trails. Some stopped for a water break and to look at the view. There were some who quit part way and others that doggedly made it to the top. I made it that day, not as fast as the old guy, but I did make it. With that same determination, you too can make it with your financial goals, making a wise budget, becoming debt free, funding your retirement, and reaching the point where you can spend for fun, but only if you focus on your goals and not on wishing you had what someone else has.

Disclaimer: I am not a trained financial advisor, I just play one on this blog. Seriously. Get good financial advice in life. My information comes primarily from personal experience, working in consumer lending in the banking industry, and watching friends, family, and parishioners struggle. But, much of this is common sense; most people just don't use their common sense when it comes to financial matters.

Financial Tip # 6 - A Cheap Trick

If you weren’t alive in the 70s, perhaps you’ve never heard of the band, Cheap Trick. They wrote a song in the late 70s called “I want you to want me.” The lyrics, sung in a soft seventies pop sound, go something like this: “I want you to want me, I need you to need me, I’d love you to love me, I’m beggin you to beg me.” I am not a fan of Cheap Trick or this song, but there is a lesson here. The singer understands that wants and needs are different.

We’ve taught our daughter an important question to ask. Whenever she says something like, “I need an iPod,” we have her ask the following question. “Is it a need, or is it a want?” Now, as a parent, it sometimes sucks to teach your kids something like this because the day WILL come when I say, “I need a new …. (fill in the blank)” and she will promptly respond, “Daddy, is it a need, or is it a want?” Don’t kids know that they should be quiet and not question their elders?

This is an inconvenient but terribly important tool in your financial tool box. The rule in our house is that we discuss any purchase over $50 and take a breather on anything over $100. Large purchases require (in most cases) a three-day waiting period where we talk about it, pray about it, and question whether this is the right choice. I have to be honest here, it wasn’t always like that. We used to spend willy-nilly on whatever we wanted and then immediately prepared the rationalization about how we really needed it.

What really brings this home is the process of having a yard sale. As you drag all the junk out of closets, from under beds, up on shelves, and off the back porch; you really get an idea of how much money you have wasted over the years, buying on impulse. Retailers know this about us, that’s why infomercials actually stay on T.V. People actually DO buy the New and Improved Electric Dog Polishers or the Amazing Milkahol Device that changes ordinary milk into gasoline for your car or the Moptastic that cleans your floors and can also be used to brush your teeth!!! You see the ad for this and you begin to go into a trance. “I need that!” you suddenly exclaim, “I don’t know how I ever got along without one!” You promptly call the telephone number on the screen before the time runs out so that you can take advantage of the $5.99 savings and free shipping. “Heck,” you think, “I’m probably making money on this deal!”

But wait, there’s more.

That object ends up in your garage only to come out when time for the next yard sale. You then look upon it wondering why in the hell you ever bought that stupid piece of junk. Sometimes, you even throw it in the trash because you don’t want the people coming to the yard sale to judge you.

I know. I’ve been there.

If you want to control your finances and ever truly get ahead in life, you have to ask yourself this one question. “Is it a want or is it a need.” Needs get taken care of first.

Air, food, water and medicine first. Feed your family. Take care of medical needs.

Shelter is second. Pay your rent or mortgage.

Keep the lights on at home. Pay your electric bill.

Save for a rainy day. Savings are important so you don’t get faced with emergency financial decision.

Give. Tithe. Donate some to help others.

Provide for your family’s future. Retirement. College. Etc.

Once your needs are taken care of, then, and only then, do you consider wants.

It is amazing how much money we waste, culturally, on junk. Buying bigger and better televisions, a newer and more powerful computer, a newer and shinier car; these things consume us and consume our money. This is one of those places where you have to be brutally honest with yourself. Every dime, dollar and nickel you waste on useless junk is multiplied in its damage, because it is money that you cannot invest and earn interest on in the future.

If you want to be financially secure, learn this Cheap Trick – know the difference between needs and wants. Ask the question “Is it a need, or is it a want?” and then base your spending decision on the answer.

Disclaimer: I am not a trained financial advisor, I just play one on this blog. Seriously. Get good financial advice in life. My information comes primarily from personal experience, working in consumer lending in the banking industry, and watching friends, family, and parishioners struggle. But, much of this is common sense, most people just don't use their common sense when it comes to financial matters.

Financial Tip # 5 – Listen to Noah

Noah built an ark to survive the coming flood. It took a long time and a lot of work when the skies were bright and beautiful and there was not clue that there was a storm on the horizon. “Ha, ha,” his neighbors would say, “Look at dumb Old Mr. Noah and the stupid ugly boat he’s building on dry land.” When the rains came, they learned their lesson too late as they sunk under the waters while Mr. and Mrs. Noah and family floated safely by. God told Noah to be prepared and now I’m telling you.

OK, I’m taking that out of context for a financial series, but the idea of being prepared is a good one. If you aren’t saving money for a rainy day, then you will be in trouble when the storm comes. As I’ve written these tips, I’ve had several people comment on Facebook and in person about how they had to get a loan because of the position that they were in. That is the message of all of this, if you take control of your finances instead of letting them control you, then there should never come a time when you have to get a loan. This is why payday lenders exist – people don’t have a cushion of savings and investments. This is why car dealers make so much money off of car loans - people aren't prepared to buy their next car because they are still paying on their old one.

Every good financial advisor will tell you that you have to pay yourself first. Now, I would say pay God first (giving) and then pay yourself second, but we’ll talk about giving later in another blog. Right now, we'll talk about savings. This is building a boat before the floods come.

Every single paycheck, put a little back. If you are already in a tough financial position (as most people are), then you may only be able to put a few bucks back at a time. But do it. No excuses. Even if it is five dollars a paycheck right now, take Nike’s advice and just do it. Open a separate savings account at the bank, for which you do not have an ATM card. As each paycheck is deposited, move whatever you can afford over into that account and then DON’T TOUCH IT! This account is only for emergencies. For the record, emergencies do not include buying a better car than the one that you already have that is running. They don’t include dinner out with the family. Vacations are not emergencies.

Ultimately, save back three to six months of expenses and then some. I used to think that this was an impossible goal. But, a little at a time gets you there.

Once you have your cushion, then you begin two new steps: investing for the future and saving for specifics.

Investing for the future means retirement, college for the kids, and future medical expenses. This is done through a good financial advisor with mutual funds, IRAs, 401ks, and the like.

Saving for specific things includes your next vehicle, car maintenance and repair, vacations, house down payment (if you don’t already own one), etc. These can be specific future needs or fun desires. The key is you save for them now and then you won’t use debt to get them later.

Emergencies DO happen. The rains WILL come. The question here is whether you have built a boat to survive the flood or will you be drowning when the waters close over you.

Disclaimer: I am not a trained financial advisor, I just play one on this blog. Seriously. Get good financial advice in life. My information comes primarily from personal experience, working in consumer lending in the banking industry, and watching friends, family, and parishioners struggle. But, much of this is common sense, most people just don't use their common sense when it comes to financial matters.

Financial Tip # 4: The Death of a Thousand Rose Petals

Marcus Aurelius Antoninus became emperor of Rome at the ate of 14 and was only emperor for four short years. Anyone who has spent any time with teenage boys could have told you that to give him that much power at that young of age would result in debauchery. He was so bad in fact that he disgusted the hedonistic Roman people. And that’s saying something.

During one of his infamous parties, he was said to have arranged for the ceiling panels to be pulled aside and thousands of rose petals dropped on his guests. There were so many rose petals that some of them were suffocated.

A single rose petal weighs in at just around 1/16 of an ounce. Yet, enough of them on top of you can crush you.

And this is where we get into our financial tip for the day:

A single sheet of paper weighs less than 1/200 of a pound and yet enough paper can crush you…Financially.

If you are ever going to get control of your day-to-day spending, your monthly budget, or your lifetime of financial investment; you have to get control of your paper!!! You must get organized.

This is probably the hardest of the financial tips for me to give because it is the one that I struggle with the most. I am a cluttered person. Anyone who has seen my desk can tell it is true. When my wife and I decided to take control and go debt free, we began sorting through our old paperwork. Months worth of unopened mail was placed in a plastic bin and we opened them one item at a time. We found lots of bills that we had paid, but just left the paperwork on the counter. We found sales , ads, and junk mail that should have been thrown away long ago. We found invitations to a party we missed. Worst of all, we found two checks that had been sent to us as refunds. Both were long since expired and of no further use. Our disorderly conduct had cost us money.

To control your budget and get out of debt, you must open your mail every day (or at least several times a week). Prioritize your bills by date and throw out the trash. In fact, I sort my mail over the trash so I don’t set anything down that we don’t need.

Place the bills in a tickler system so that you can pay them in order when your paycheck comes in.

Then, you need a filing system. Label everything. When you pay the bill, staple the receipt to the bill and place it in a file folder labeled for those items. If you are paying off collections, demand a payoff letter from them and then, when you pay it off, keep a copy of the checks you used so you can prove it later.

If your personality type is not one for doing this sort of tedium, you are going to hate it. But, I can promise you that it will save you hundreds and even thousands of dollars over your life time and also cut your stress when it comes time to purchase a home, pay taxes, or deal with collectors who have already been paid.

Like those little rose petals, out of control paperwork will smother you. Control your paperwork and it won’t crush you.

Disclaimer: I am not a trained financial advisor, I just play one on this blog. Seriously. Get good financial advice in life. My information comes primarily from personal experience, working in consumer lending in the banking industry, and watching friends, family, and parishioners struggle. But, much of this is common sense, most people just don't use their common sense when it comes to financial matters.

P.S. I apologize for the break in this series. I was completing homework for school. Talk about papers suffocating you.